#004 - What do you love?
What Do You Love?
... and why De-Armouring isn’t only about releasing tension.
Dear Reader.
Before we say a word, we are already speaking.
Through the way we move.
The way we hold tension.
The way we breathe.
I notice it every day - walking the streets of Berlin, sitting in the Metro or working with someone. Bodies carrying stories, some never told, some long forgotten. The slight hesitation before allowing themselves to fully relax. The breath caught in the chest. The belly, tense. Shoulders held just a little too high.
And when I ask, What do you love? There’s often a pause.
Not because they don’t care.
Not because they don’t love anything.
But because, somewhere along the way, they stopped listening.
It happens so easily. Life moves fast. Conditioning starts early. Responsibilities stack up. We learn to ignore the whispers of our own body. Until one day, the whispers turn into tension. Into exhaustion. Into a disconnection we are getting used to - we stop questioning it.
But the body never stops speaking.
A tight chest. A stiff neck. Lower back pain. That gut feeling we override. If we don’t listen, it will speak louder.
Pain. Burnout. Numbness.
Until we have no choice but to stop and pay attention.
And beneath it all, something is waiting. A pulse of aliveness that was never lost, only buried.
There is power in creating space for that voice again. In listening - not just to thoughts or emotions - but to what the body is truly saying.
The body carries every moment we ignored, every boundary we didn’t set, every truth we swallowed.
It tightens where we held back.
It aches where we abandoned ourselves.
And still, it knows.
What lights you up.
What brings you home.
What makes you feel fully alive.
And if tension, stored emotions, and old patterns block that knowing - how can you hear it?
This is why “soft touch” De-Armouring isn’t just about releasing tension.
It’s about remembering.
It’s about transforming numbness into receptivity - so you can feel again.
It’s about making space - so pleasure has room to speak.
It’s about expanding your capacity - to hold all that beauty life has to offer.
Love isn’t something you need to find.
It’s already within you.
Waiting for you to listen.
What do you love?
Not what you “should” love.
Not what makes sense on paper.
But what makes your body exhale, your energy expand, your heart soften.
So I wonder - what would happen if we all listened a little more?
What would you hear?
What do you love?
Let me know. Just respond,
Warmly,
Johannes
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